Wednesday, December 18, 2019

2019 Gobbe/Iyanu

2019 Gobbe/Iyanu

Hey lovers of talk2ebijanded's blog, how are you doing today? We are gradually saying goodbye to this year eeeh. This year sha came with it's own blessings and lessons. 

Today's post might be a little emosh as I would be sharing some details of how my 2019 played... I remember that I dropped an article when the year began titled "Is this the 2019 we've all beeen waiting for" (feel free to read this article on the blog).

Trust me, 2019 was a huge year for me again...
My faith level grew
I became stronger
I cried and broke down a couple of times (hehehe,that part of me is one funny one Sha,I can cry for Africa).
Don't get it twisted o, I bounce back fast after the tears drop. 

That's how janded I can be. I just can't handle somethings only in my mind or ears; my eyes take active participation as well. 

Basically, my most challenging time in 2019 was becoming a mum. Hmmmm
You see this story bah, I go gist am another
The drama was epic trust me. 

Having to start catering for another person (The baby) was no joke at all. You see women bah, please show them some love. E no easy at all o. Women are super heros. Sometimes, I would look at my little one and just burst into tears... You're asking why bah? Lol

That life was new, strange, challenging and sometimes you cannot give any excuse to even wanting to chill a little. You just must do the job. Is it about the sleepless nights, the breastfeeding saga(you're just moving around with someone's food on your chest..cheeeee,inside life

Omo,leave mata for Mathias. Mums can relate. But in all sha, I'm very grateful for this amazing experience. It's such a lovely feeling to see how you bond with your little one at the end of the day. They teach you so many things during this process. 

That experience changed me for good, renewed my mindset and made me value mothers more. 

*Here Comes The Body Shammers*

This one right here, brought me to tears a couple of times but I'm glad I fought it well at the end of the day. So many talks flying here and there about how I'm not fat or have reduced... I started imagining if I have been a fat person in my life o.

I mean asides baby fat and all(growing up stage). 

You see bah, people must talk. Don't let it get to you. That was what I encouraged myself with it during that time. I stopped allowing their words get the best of me. If I needed to cry,I do it calmly and then brace up again.

They played with my emotional side that period o. I mean,I was dealing with a lot of things and trying to cope with this new me; It was not easy trust me, but we are here now almost ticking one year. Yippie! The body Shammers did not win. Lol

My 2019 was also filled with lots of achievements and blessings as well. Most Importantly, I was glad I started my Msc program (I've been looking forward to it). 

I published a book in my name titled VERA.

I had a successful back to school outreach for my Foundation. The Siaisiai Ebisidor Foundation (putting smiles on the faces of children as we put them in classrooms).

So many good stuff happened.

That was how my 2019 played itself.

 Please, I would like to hear your side of 2019, the blessings and lessons that came through. At least,share one with me eeeeh. I do hope you had an awesome time as usual? Kindly,drop a comment below. Merci beacoup!

Wednesday, December 11, 2019

Prosperity versus Posterity...

Prosperity versus Posterity...

Person wey get money, get kilobyte o... I mean, you are well mouthed. Today, join me as we talk about prosperity and posterity.

Prosperity is good, I mean very good; is there anyone who doesn't want to be prosperous in life? There is this feeling of fulfillment you get when you can get just anything you want at any point in time in life, regardless of the price tag. Money is good o. Like the holy book confirms that "Money is a defense". Let no one tell you it's not nice to want to be prosperous or have so much money in life.

There are so many prosperous people we have in the world today and i can boldly tell you i'll be one of them very soon... Don't doubt me o;just watch this space and you will see things manifest in a short while. You can say this about yourself too eeeeh.

In a nutshell, it is very good to be prosperous in life. Have as much money, investments and everything janded but all that makes no sense with no good posterity.

According to the dictionary, "Prosperity is the state of flourishing, thriving, good fortune, or successful social status. Prosperity often encompasses wealth but also includes other factors which can be independent of wealth to varying degrees, such as happiness and health."

Posterity on the other hand is the future generations of people. They include your children, great grandchildren or any people who are born after you. If you save something "for posterity," you're hoping that years later people will appreciate it, like a time capsule you bury in the yard.

This is my major aim for writing this article today and sharing it with you; As much as you are working towards being prosperous, you must give thought to POSTERITY. This is important because you would not want to be gone and regretting that all you worked for is been mismanaged and not regarded or cherished. One sad truth is that some persons stay alive and see the prosperity they worked so hard for being destroyed by posterity.

We must imbibe the right character in our children. Let us take it from there... Proper upbringing of your kids will secure posterity for you even if you are no longer breathing. You will smile as you watch them utilize the resources you reserved for them[money or investments]. They will make effort to protect your name and integrity.

I heard a story about a very wealthy man who has no good child. I mean he has about 5 children and not one of them is anything to write home about. They lack home training(very disrespectful), they are causing commotion every now and then, The man is either in court trying to handle this case for one child or receiving a call to protect his child/children from shame. This is a highly placed man in the society o, but posterity is already failing him.

What kind of children are you planning to raise?

 Can posterity be proud of you?

Teach your children good morals... let them know the values of your family and how they must do everything possible to protect the image of the family. As I always like to say, that some generations have failed... generations to come cannot fail. We need to right the wrongs of generations before us; most especially as it concerns posterity.

There are some thing you can teach your kids, i will itemize some of them and you can add yours as well.

1: Do not let them over spend. I mean do not give them access to so much money at a very tender age no matter what you have.

2: Teach them to respect everyone. They must learn manner of approach and how to treat people with love.

Please, feel free to add yours as I would really love to hear from you...

Inasmuch, as I would love to talk some more about the image above, I guess I would have to wait and gist it another day... Meanwhile,I totally agree with the image. Nigeria my beloved country. smiles

I do hope you found this piece helpful as we make conscious efforts in focusing more attention on Posterity and not Prosperity alone. Thank you for coming through to read this piece, kindly, leave a comment below. Gracias!

Monday, November 25, 2019

An Angel In Human Form

An Angel In Human Form

I write this piece today from a happy place not forgetting how life was a couple of years back. I am sincerely grateful that God used this young man to save a soul... God bless you real good dear.

Let's make some progress so I can tell you what he did.

The year 2017 was hot hot for me; I mean really hard. It was a confusing year.

No money
No job
No happiness
Nothing at all.

I was in Lagos, looking like all was well with me but deep down I was hurting, mehn, that phase was crazy eeeh. I remember writing an article on the link below to read the lovely piece.;postID=3593104742025163846;onPublishedMenu=allposts;onClosedMenu=allposts;postNum=36;src=postname.

Peradventure,the link does not open, feel free to look through my articles, (The dark phase is the title). You will love it trust me!

On this fateful day, I was sitting outside wondering what was happening to me and how everything seemed not to be working out for me and then Ajibola Osho came to chill with me.

Ajibola: Good evening sister

Me: Good evening o

Ajibola: Please, can I sit with you?

In my mind, I was wondering who he was and what he wanted, but then again, no be me kuku get the chair so I allowed the young man to sit jejely. Little did I know that he was an answer to  my prayer. I had not taken lunch that day and was not even sure of a good dinner. I just promised myself that las las I go just drink garri and I go dey alright.

To be honest, having to type this today and looking back to yesterday, I just have to admit that God never leaves His children and He has it all figured out.

That day Ajibola asked me if I had eaten,something in me wanted to lie just because I was forming fine geh, but I had to summon courage to say the truth; trust me when I say it was difficult to say and much more difficult for him to believe. Well, to cut the long story, he asked me to come along with him as he wanted to pick up a few stuff from a near by shop and I reluctantly followed him, I mean I was just meeting this person that day; though he told me his house was just the next one after mine but I had never seen him before so I was skeptical to go with him but he assured me that he meant no harm and that we would not be gone for long so I just had to trust him a little... I was scared somehow o, I no go lie but I told myself to hide the fear.

We got to the shop and he asked me to take anything I wanted... I looked at him in shock and almost in tears still trying to refuse the kind gesture o,lol. Me, way hungry dey catch o...hehehe

I picked few stuff and told him I was good with them but he refused saying I should pick some more,eeeeh, is this really happening tonight I thought to myself. I'm okay with these ones I already picked, thank you so much...Oga refused o, he picked a couple of other things that can last me for 5 days from that day. To be honest, I cried. I was just overjoyed and somehow in shock also.

In my head, what kept playing was THIS CAN ONLY BE GOD.
Thank God I did not go to bed hungry that night. Ajibola did not stop his niceness that day o. he continued showing care and trust me when I say there were no strings attached even till till date, we are still in touch and I never forget what he did for me.

There is another kind gesture of someone else I would have shared here today but I guess that will be some other time as I do not intend this post to be lengthy and as it is right now, it's already getting long so I guess I would have to draw the curtain close here.

There is something I want you to leave here with after reading this post today which is; do good to people when you have the means to, it definitely comes back to you somehow...

Thank you Ajobola for saving a soul that night... I am very grateful.
Thank you also for coming through to read this piece. Please, do leave a comment below and you can share your experience of how someone came through for you... See you soon.

Thursday, November 7, 2019

Cyber Depression

Cyber Depression

In a world full of pretense and lies, there's bound to be depression from so many to so many... Today, let's talk about Cyber Depression. As usual,you know you get the best articles here; so,join me as we read jandedly.

So many things can make one depressed. Money, unemployment, unmet needs, singleness, childlessness, to mention but a few. I must confess that, depression is real and anyone can be depressed at any point in time in life.

I mean, even the strong and mighty... Only God can help. I've been a victim of depression and I must tell you, it's it's no joke at all.
Cyber depression can be explained as a situation of displaying "an all is well card" when deep down in your heart,you're hurting. You just smile for the cameras so people can think you smile always... Don't get me wrong here, smiling is very good o.

Cyber depression is a situation where people think you have it all figured out and probably envy you somehow but then again,you know you're not truly happy...I mean, the depression that comes when no one is watching or encouraging you, when you are even with your phone and the reality of life steps in. This is the type of depression that the internet gives room for.

Cyber depression is real,I mean legit real. Somebody can post a picture of them looking good and all, but behind the phone is someone crying and wishing they had specific things of life. 
Oftentimes,we are guilty of making others depressed in ways we can't even fathom. Let me give you some scenarios so you'll understand my point.

A married person who mocks her single friends...They see you on the internet and feel depressed.

A woman who has a child and mocks another woman who is still trusting God to have her own bundle of joy... You are part of the problem ma.

Someone who has a job and mocks others for staying idle or still searching for a job...
A good looking person (fashion and dress sense) who looks down on another person who looks haggard... Were you never jobless sir/ma? Please, be nice as you are also part of the problem.

A comfortable couple who mocks another couple who is still trying to put things together... Let people grow and evolve with time. Kindly, take your eyes off the issues that do not concern you or take you to the bank. You are part of the problem eeeeh.

I could go on and on you know.

In a nutshell,we seldom depress others in many ways, indirectly or directly,they become depressed as a result of our actions.

Of a truth,the best place everyone sees what everyone is doing even if they choose to act like they did not see anything is right  there in the cyber space. I mean, everyone is watching and wants to know what the other person is up to.

Sometimes,they want to ensure you're not even above them. Then again, I ask,to what end? If you have somethings others don't have, please enjoy them in peace and stop mistreating others in many negative ways; especially through the Cyber space. I tell you, Cyber depression is real and you just might be the next victim... hehehe. It's no curse at all o, please just thread with caution.

Just before I stop typing today, I want to encourage everyone who sees what's happening in the Cyber space and feel really terrible as though they are not getting anywhere in life and probably think of an escape plan... (some even think of killing themselves...) Please and please,relax okay!

Everyone has got their times and season...even the holy book says same thing "There's a time for everything..." You may be crying now, just be sure you'll smile soon. Yes! You may want to ask me when that day will be? I can boldly tell you, that one soon is the day if you stay hopeful and persevere.

Try as much as you can to protect yourself from becoming a victim of cyber depression and don't let others become depressed because of you. Kindly,share this piece with someone you think needs this. Thanks for always stopping by to read my articles. Don't forget to say something in the comment section below. See you shortly... Cheers!

Wednesday, October 16, 2019



I am a Madonna student, oya fall in here...

I am delighted to give you a brief definition of the word 'Morocation'

Morocation can be defined as a situation where by a male and a female agree to meet to discuss pressing issues, express deep affection for one another,share pleasantries and gifts, peck if necessary, hold hands sometimes in fear of the unknown, basically just make a relationship/friendship solidified especially in an environment where strict rules are adhered to(inhumane environment like Madonna) where irrational thinking faculties; those who call themselves bourgeoisie, showcase their sovereignty over proletariat who obviously are the students.

You can use it as a short code too

E.g Moro

Examples are given below with the use of Moro, morocating, Morocate and morocation.

I dey go Moro
You dey morocate abi?
Make we morocate for PavD tomorrow (just wave your hand and I go see you)
Morocation is not allowed, if you're caught morocating, you'll be taken to G-unit.

I try abi I no try?
You fit add your own o

I do hope you find this useful. 

Thanks. *Signing out Ebijanded*

Friday, October 4, 2019

Mothers have failed

Mothers have failed

If you're a mum, come in now to read this piece. Singles are also permitted to fall in too as one day, you will become a mum as well. Guys are permitted to have a good read eeeh.

 As usual,I drop lovely articles you can relate with,so you're absolutely in the right place.

Mothers why? I mean why are we like this? I know our mothers failed us... Do we want to fail our daughters? I'm so pained right now. Let's roll so I can just tell you what's up for today.

I remember vividly, growing up and watching my brothers play like there's no tomorrow (sometimes,I wished I could join them), naaah,mama was training me to be a good girl, lady and then wife/mother.

I remember washing their clothes sometimes, assisting in kitchen duties, running errands and serving the whole family (food activities) on many occasions. My brothers were so happy to be served as they would even wait patiently for you to bring it to them. Lol

I do not blame them anyways as that's exactly how society has made it to be. Men are served and women are the severs(I can never call a woman a servant as that's not who she is).

We cannot fail our daughters... We need to change this mindset. Please,do not get me wrong here; I am only saying same focus/training should be given to both gender. Let the boys do same thing as the girls so the society can be a good place to dwell in.

Who on earth raised the boy who maltreats a girl?

Who is the mum that raised that boy that thinks women belong to the kitchen?

Who is the mum that raised that guy that sees assisting his wife in home matters as demeaning?

Who is the mum that raised a boy that thinks girls are sex toys?

Who is the mum that raised  the boy who impregnates a girl and decides not to take responsibility or even tell the girl to commit an abortion when he would have possibly abstained or used a condom?

Yes I said condom, as it's best to protect oneself if you're mature enough to have sex and think you cannot abstain. My dear,use protection!

I ask again, who is that mum? There are so many questions I would love to ask but i guess you get my point already.

Our mothers have failed us but we definitely cannot fail our daughters. We must raise our sons well.

We pay so much attention on the girl child and leave the boy child to himself who apparently becomes a problem in the society tomorrow if left alone with no direction,guide or counsel.

Do not forget that the girl you train today is at the detriment of an untrained boy... This leaves me to ask you this question today,what kind of mum do you want to be tomorrow?

I have made up my mind to be that super janded mum that gives utmost attention to her boy child and also to her girl child; You should make this decision today as well so we can make the world a better place.

Today's boy, Tomorrow's man!

I do hope you find this piece interesting and worth sharing with everyone... See you shortly.  Don't forget to drop a comment below.

Saturday, September 14, 2019

"Don't Rob Peter To Pay Paul"

"Don't Rob Peter To Pay Paul"

Thanks for always keeping up with my articles, I do not take it for granted at all. I'm here again with another lovely article, enjoy as always. 

This article is about balancing. You must learn to balance stuff hence you will end up robbing Peter to pay Paul. This article promises to be one of the shortest ones I have posted so far. Let's roll. I'll be using myself as an example to buttress this point today.

Okay one of the days in last month, I was on the phone with a friend and she was asking how I manage to do the stuff I do and not get stressed or loose focus: after telling her God was a major factor for all my successes, I told her how I try not to rob Peter to pay Paul. 

I know I have my foundation's goals to be reached,my blog and writing commitments, career pursuit as well, my family and off course myself(my me time, my fellowship with God and catching up with friends and loved ones). I do all that like every other time or day and no one feels left out.

Sincerely, it's not easy but I have always learnt to prioritize so I can attend to the most pressing and then others as well. Okay, let me give you a scenario just so you can understand better.

I have to prepare a budget for my foundation's intending outreach, I need to go to the market and then make dinner, I also want to catch up with my long time friends on Whatsapp; all these are important as I would love to do all at once, but I just have to prioritize.

I go to the market first, start the process of cooking, pick up my pen and book(not my phone o), scribble down a few things in respect to the budget while i'm waiting for the beef to cook or the tomato to steam(I may not get it done completely at that time but at least I started already and if one of my board members requires to see the budget, I can show him to the extent at which I have gone as opposed to  giving excuses) and then with that done and dusted with, I can pick up my phone and catch up... 

You see, everyone gets attended to. If I had said there was no need cooking at that time, I and husbae would definitely go hungry, or if I had decided to work on the budget at a later time or day, what would have been my response when one of them needed a glimpse of it? 

Okay, if  I could not meet up with the time out with my friends online, what would my excuse be?...probably, I was cooking or got too busy when I would have just applied a little balancing tip just so no one is left undone. You cannot keep saying you are busy and not do the needful, as a matter of fact, all of them are important, but who to pay not to rob the other is a major factor to consider.

You cannot use all your time online when you need to do other important things... just learn to know which is more pressing to attend to while you do others alongside. My point is that YOU DON'T ROB PETER TO PAY PAUL.

I wish you the very best as you practice this simple truth on balancing.. See you shortly. Do leave a comment and share this article as always. Stay janded!

Thursday, September 12, 2019

How I wish that babies come with Manual

How I wish that babies come with Manual

Hey! lovers of talk2ebijanded's blog! I trust you're doing good... Don't forget you get  articles you can  relate with here as usual. Let's ride.

Manuals would have made the job a whole lot easier you You just woman up and do the job. I salute all mothers eehh.

The trip I made in becoming a mum shaped every aspect of me and changed my mindset on a couple of things; especially how I see other mums. I mean, it's no joke at all.
After childbirth, you see people coming around to help with stuff(most especially to carry the little one as they stare and smile at the priceless gift).

It's an amazing feeling I must confess.

Reality check! "Okay Mummy Ethan,I need to go and do something in my house, or step out to get something;please, carry your baby"
LOL... This can be really heartbreaking at times, especially if you have been super stressed or just overwhelmed with mummy duties since the little one arrived. Anyways,you just get the baby and show some love regardless.

Anyone can carry a child (I mean, throw the child up,tickle him or her, stroll around or even feed the child) Caring for a child is a different ball game altogether. All morning, nights,in sickness, sleeplessness, tiredness, anything... That's exactly my point. Mum's are priceless!

Oftentimes, I hear those who have little or no knowledge about this stage of life say so much and I just smile. I mean, just wait till you experience it for yourself and you will learn to speak good about that mum you're tearing apart simply because she's trying to put it all together.

All you do for her child is carry the child...she does much more for the child; She cares... It's a lifetime job you know. Show her some love and support/encourage her. Mothers are strong indeed.


When you see any mum, please, kindly give her a hug and tell her I said she's simply amazing. You can bless a mum with this article as well. Don't forget to drop a comment below and share this piece. See you soon.

Thursday, August 8, 2019

Buried Emotions by Etietshola Princess

Buried Emotions by Etietshola Princess

Imagine how pleasant life would be if everyone could speak up about certain aspects of life,and not bury feelings.The people we choose to open and trust our hearts to matters alot,as we place value on the feelings and emotions like a precious gift.

This piece is dedicated to everyone out there whom for some unknown reasons can't deal with opening up..Join me as I would be talking about two friends named Jimmy and Kaira, its worth learning from.

We were in our 10th grade:
As I sat there in English class, I stared at the girl next to me. She was my so called "best friend". I stared at her long, silky hair, and wished she was mine. But she didn't notice me like that, and I knew it. After class, she walked up to me and asked me for the notes she had missed the day before and I handed them to her. She said "thanks" and gave me a kiss on the cheek. I wanted to tell her, I want her to know that I don't want to be just friends, I love her but I'm just too shy, and I don't know why.

11th grade
The phone rang. On the other end, it was her. She was in tears, mumbling on and on about how her love had broke her heart. She asked me to come over because she didn't want to be alone, so I did. As I sat next to her on the sofa, I stared at her soft eyes, wishing she was mine. After 2 hours, one Drew Barrymore movie, and three bags of chips, she decided to go to sleep. She looked at me, said "thanks" and gave me a kiss on the cheek. I want to tell her, I want her to know that I don't want to be just friends, I love her but I'm just too shy, and I don't know why.

Senior year
The day before prom she walked to my locker. My date is sick" she said; he's not going to go well, I didn't have a date, and in 7th grade, we made a promise that if neither of us had dates, we would go together just as "best friends". So we did. Prom night, after everything was over, I was standing at her front door step. I stared at her as she smiled at me and stared at me with her crystal eyes. I want her to be mine, but she isn't thinking of me like that and I know it. Then she said "I had the best time, thanks!" and gave me a kiss on the cheek. I want to tell her, I want her to know that I don't want to be just friends, I love her but I'm just too shy and I don't know why.

Graduation Day
A day passed, then a week, then a month. Before I could blink, it was graduation day. I watched as her perfect body floated like an angel up on stage to get her diploma. I wanted her to be mine, but she didn't notice me like that, and I knew it. Before everyone went home, she came to me in her smock and hat, and cried as I hugged her. Then she lifted her head from my shoulder and said, "you're my best friend, thanks" and gave me a kiss on the cheek. I want to tell her, I want her to know that I don't want to be just friends, I love her but I'm just too shy and I don't know why.

A Few Years Later
Now I sit in the pews of the church. That girl is getting married now. I watched her say "I do" and drive off to her new life, married to another man. I wanted her to be mine, but she didn't see me like that, and I knew it. But before she drove away, she came to me and said "you came!". She said "thanks" and kissed me on the cheek. I want to tell her, I want her to know that I don't want to be just friends, I love her but I'm just too shy, and I don't know why.

Years passed, I looked down at the coffin of a girl who used to be my "best friend". At the service, they read a diary entry she had wrote in her high school years. This is what it read: I stare at him wishing he was mine, but he doesn't notice me like that, and I know it. I want to tell him, I want him to know that I don't want to be just friends, I love him but I'm just too shy, and I don't know why. I wish he would tell me he loved me! I wish I did too...I thought to myself, and I cried.

Hmmm,so that was how it ended with Jimmy..Let me ask a question,did jimmy feel bad and regretful?ooooh yes,am sure we know the answer already..The truth is this,sometimes we try so hard to hide everything we’re really feeling from those who probably need to know our true feelings the most. People try to bottle up their emotions, as if it’s somehow wrong to have natural reactions to life.

There are many different reasons that we may endeavor to hide, or disguise, the emotional pain that comes in the wake of negative beliefs about ourselves evoked by a particular person or situation. But what they have in common is that they’re all fear-induced,but then we should always know that when matters of the heart and mind is involved..we should learn to talk to someone.

It is important to share your feelings with others so that they can help you to the best of their ability and try to understand what you are going through, Keeping things bottled can be unhealthy and could lead to depression if you don't talk to someone, not everyone understands what you are going through..

"Probably if Jimmy had opened up all along about his buried emotions,they would still be together,and kaira would'nt have died.."

But opening up to others just to let your feelings out and vent about a problem that has been building, is a great way to release all that tension that has been building for so long..There is always help and support out there when you need it.

We would like to read your comments and know your view on this article. Please, do leave a comment below and also share this piece. Thanks always.

Friday, June 28, 2019

The Child we once loved

The Child we once loved

Hihi,to all lovers of talk2ebijanded blog

You guys make me want to write always. As usual, I'm here with a lovely piece. You know how we do it eeeh; okay, let's roll.

Today, I'm dropping this piece to remind us that every child is important and all we need to do is show them love.

The cry of a new born child is priceless.
The entry of a child into a home brings joy unspeakable.

But what happened to the child we once loved?

No child should be loved less
No child should be treated as unworthy
Even if he child is slim or chubby
Even if the child is ugly or fine
Even if the child is light skinned or dark skinned
Even if the child is healthy or unhealthy
Whatever the case may be, every child is worthy of love, care, attention and provision.

Again I ask, what happened to the child we once loved?
Is the child not helpless  and alone today?
Probably roaming the street with little or no attention.
No provision of food or shelter of any kind.

I think, not in school as well... Looking unkept.

Sometimes, they even ask you for a little help maybe for their parents or themselves so they can be fine or feed... What did you do for that child?
Don't forget,that child was once loved,celebrated and cared for.

Now you may say, "I try as much as I possible to cater for my kids and I totally think that's fine..."

Naaaah, if all you are comfortable with is catering for just your immediate family, you need to really change that mindset as there is so much need out there waiting to be met,most especially the need of a child once loved.

No parent is happy when they can't meet the needs of their child/children. But tell me,do we put the blame on the child? As a matter of fact, he/she was once loved.

Anything can happen at any time to any family and they are rendered helpless, leaving them in the hands of some few persons who care.

If there's anything you can do for a child,please kindly do it well. The child once loved deserves to be loved forever and definitely not loose his/smile.

I visited few of the kids under the care of my foundation and I could not stop smiling. Please, feel free to join an initiative that still cares for The child once loved.

Feel free to send us an email on to support the Child once loved or call 08166388260. Looking forward to hearing from you. Together we can look out for The Child We once loved. 

Kindly share this piece to anyone you think can be a blessing to a child somewhere. Let's make it work.

Thank you for stopping by today... Let's do this again soonest. Do take care of you and smile always.

Monday, June 17, 2019

Anticipating Essa

Anticipating Essa

I'm here again guys and this time is to inform you that Essa{The Premiere} is just at your doorstep... If you are in Lasgidi, you should not miss out on this, I mean you should be the first person to see this intriguing movie.

Personally, I cannot wait!

Stay tuned for more updates on the blog... Let's support Our Nigeria Movie Industry. As a matter of fact, Essa is a must watch for all. Remember what I said in my last blog post; When everyone becomes a suspect, all you can do is thread carefully, I mean tip toe tip toe.

Please, get all necessary information about the movie on the flier. ESSA!!!

Friday, June 14, 2019

Let them fail. Inspired by Olamide Siaisiai

Let them fail. Inspired by Olamide Siaisiai

All my married friends,please fall in here... Yet to be married,you can tag along as this post would be very helpful.

I've learnt to cherish intelligent conversations and wise people. I do not take for granted any opportunity to learn (no man is an island you know)

Okay,main gist eeeh, you see Lamz bah, she's one amazing being to speak to in any situation you find yourself in,I mean she just knows how to calm any storm (You need a Lamz in your life trust me).
I know a lot of persons are victims of what I'm about to share today,so I would advise you stay glued to this article till I say ciao ciao.

"Women are super humans I know,but sometimes we can be really extreme. Wanting things to be done in a certain type of way. You have a partner who can never be like you weather you like it or not. They can only try to do it their own best way... Most times, it'd even  be worse than it's original".

"It's okay to let them fail..."

Hmmm. Fail I asked? And then Lams responded " oh yeah, it's okay for them to fail"

When I heard that, I was perplexed but I demanded to know why she said that and she shared with me how she got the insight from a reputable guy..(Pastor Stephen Chandler)

Lams continues speaking...

"If  your partner assists in any way in the house, learn to appreciate them even when they do not get it right. It's absolutely fine if they fail at it. You don't have to  make them feel terrible for failing. As they keep trying, they get better with time. You are not their mum you know and they wouldn't want you treating them as though you are. When they fail at it, communicate right about it if you must talk about it. Don't go complaining and shouting at the top of your voice... as a matter of fact, they may never want to render assistance anymore because they would feel it wouldn't  be appreciated again. It's okay if they fail..."

We spoke at length but I am sure by now, you get the point.

I listened carefully and realized how I've hurt my partner even without knowing it. I felt really bad as sometimes, we women go as far as complaining when these men try to assist.. remember some men wouldn't even dare assist in home matters; so you must count yourself lucky to have a man that tries to assist.

Now I'm not saying house chores are solely for the woman; after all the home belongs to both of them. But my point is that you need to learn to appreciate these men when they make little efforts (most men just get to learn these stuff in marriage o).

You know how society and some families treat the girl child differently... Boys do just a few chores at home while the girls do almost everything,from cleaning, to cooking, to running errands... Those things are changing now though and that's good progress.

Marriage is work and it takes both parties to make it work. Communication is very important and most important is how you communicate.

I hope this article was helpful indeed. Kindly drop a comment below or share your view on this topic. See you soon...

Monday, June 3, 2019




When darkness creeps in and everyone becomes a suspect, all you can do is walk on your toes.

I mean tip toe,tip toe.

Essa! This is a movie you don't want to miss. Anticipate!!!


Film written and produced by Desree Oladimeji
Co directed by Desree oladimeji
Directed by Emeka David
Cast - Apel ordwen, Femi afolabi, Olanrewaju Ayanwale,  Favour david, Desree oladimeji, Tony talks, Goodness kajiva

For xtremeshotz
Facebook: @xtremeshotz, Emeka David, Desree desahree
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Sunday, May 26, 2019

Happy Children's Day From Us.

Happy Children's Day From Us.

I am not about to share my delivery room experience with you o, but I know one day I will. Children are so sweet eeeeh, the love and palava put together makes it all fun. But, I must admit that it's not easy to take care of a child. You need extra patience and tolerance.

Okay, I love children a lot and can go an extra mile to ensure that a child is happy. As a result of that, I worked so hard to ensure that I have a platform where I can meet the needs of some children (especially children in rural areas)

I'm very pleased to tell your that The Siaisiai Ebisidor Foundation came as a result of my undying love for kids and their well being. I mean, there's something in my name today. I feel super blessed that kids are smiling and can go to school through my foundation.

Today means a lot to me. Please,if all you can do for a child is to put a smile on his/her face today, please, do it well. They deserve to smile. Remember that, helping a child smile is helping a generation stay strong. 

You can also be part of the lovely things The Siaisiai Ebisidor Foundation is doing in the lives of children. Do well to reach out to us by sending a mail to or call 08166388260 for support and sponsorship.

Happy Children's Day to every child. Do send my love to a child/children close to you. Tell them Ebijanded loves them so much.

Below are few pictures from the foundation. Looking forward to your calls. Let us be the reason for a child's smile.

Tuesday, May 7, 2019

Husband Recession

Husband Recession

Ask an average Naija girl to define her dream husband; first, she will mention "God fearing" in order not to sound so worldly but then she begins to add worldly requirements like "he has to be tall, handsome, rich, owns a house, one car atleast and be presentable."
If you check the number of girls saying this and the number of men that meet that standard, you will see why there is a phrase like Husband Scarcity.
You hear girls say, "I cannot go and suffer in a man's house o."

But what if from the beginning, you have everything you want and there is no suffering, but later in the marriage, the table turns around, then comes suffering? Will you run away?
No one prays for suffering, but it is better to start small and get big, than start big and get small.
The description most ladies give of their ideal man is virtually the same.

When many girls want the same kind of men and the men that fit what they want are very few; what becomes of the many other girls left without their dream men? Husband Scarcity.
Probably more women than men in the world but to make it worse, 7 out of 10 men will only get married after 30 years; while 7 out of 10 ladies wish to get married before 30. Husband Recession.
The slow rate of marriage has become one of the biggest challenges faced by many ladies today. No prayer session in any church is complete without prayers for women seeking husband.

However, One easy way to find a husband is to change your view of who a husband is. A husband is that man God made full of dreams, responsibilities and purpose and knowing man couldn't achieve his purpose in life without a help mate, God made the woman and gave to him.
Marriage has never been a poverty alleviation program. It is a union of two with same goals and mission to fulfil the will of God here on earth.

Women are home builders not house warmers. Don't mistake a man's path for his destination. Where that guy is today may only be a route to where God has destined him to be tomorrow and the bigger truth is that you might be the tool he needs to achieve greatness.
Pick up the right values today... Join in alleviating husband scarcity.

This article was provided by a dear friend who has refused to show his face but at least, I have a brief information about him. His name is Godson Adiele, a graduate of Mass Communication from Madonna University. He also has a Masters degree in Marketing Communication, He is specialized in public relations and advertising,He's from Abia State and loves to play the game of scrabble. 

Your article can be published too by me... kindly send a mail to See you soon. 

Sunday, May 5, 2019

You never know when.

You never know when.

My little Damsel. She never ends a call without saying"I love you".

 Oh! My pretty little damsel whose words still linger on my mind. I always longed for her call and could give up anything to listen to her voice as her last words could calm a troubled heart. She was just seventeen when she captured my heart with those amazing words...

 It took me a while to communicate with my damsel as I was busy with work but I wondered why she did not call to check up on me as usual. So I thought it wise to call her, what a relief when I heard her voice.... I really did miss her. It was time to end the call and I anticipated the usual" I love you" but to my greatest surprise I did not get that so I demanded to know what was wrong with my little damsel,but she couldn't talk much. I ended the call knowing she was not strong but I ended the call with " I love you" , still no response from her.

I felt really bad after talking to her for the first time as I did not get the usual words and as a matter of fact,that night was the longest.

 At the dawn of a new day,I picked up my phone to check up on her but I heard a strange voice.

"oh Aunty Bella, your little damsel passed on at the early hour's of today...2:30 a:m precisely, we lost her to typhoid and malaria. We did our best but all to no avail.

Heartbreaking I must say. For the first time in my life I was speechless as tears dropped profusely from my eyes. I only managed to drop the call and put myself together. I'm still in shock till date as I miss hearing that voice. I can only wish I had her here with me till date.

To be honest, we really cannot tell when we bade our last goodbyes to the ones we love so we must learn to take everyday with smiles and cherish the ones we love and care about. 

Do not end up wishing you said those words or showed that love;as a matter of fact,you have today and now to be everything lovely you would want to be tomorrow. You sincerely cannot say when. 

Do take care of yourself and never stop smiling. Please,drop a comment in the box below and kindly share this post. See you soon.

Friday, April 26, 2019

Thirty and not cursed.

Thirty and not cursed.

Hello out there...You're welcome to my space again.

This post is an exceptional one and I urge you to read through till I fix my last full stop.

What is it about being 30 and cursed?
 You will find out my reason for making this post soon. 

Karen(Name withheld) was in deep thought one afternoon as she wouldn't speak with anyone...what is the matter I asked; I probably can help I told her, but she sighed and said there's no way I can help as she's just tired of feeling cursed... Cursed? Why and who makes you feel cursed? 

She looked at me and I saw a tear drop down her chin; common girl! You can't be doing this right now. I felt really bad for her. 

She spoke after much persuasion and felt better after our little chit chat. I know we have so many persons like Karen out there who are tired of feeling cursed simply because they have turned 30.

My darling, there's absolutely nothing wrong with you. Sometimes it gets really hard for some people to find their true selves before 30(A good job, cash inflow,marriage, children, connections, etc) But it does not mean you're cursed.

Please, be patient with yourself and don't let anyone put you under unnecessary pressure. Wait for things to unfold gradually. 

Who even said people cannot become all they ever dreamt of becoming because they have passed 30years? 

Why do you want to kill yourself because society in a way has given some definitions to some things? Once again,I urge you to be patient and tell yourself you're not cursed. 

Don't forget, you're what you constantly tell yourself... Stay strong and smile through it all..

Thirty is just a number. You will smile soon. Please,stay amazing. 

Kindly share this article to encourage someone. See you shortly. 

Thursday, April 11, 2019

Nkaiso Asikpo Speaks On The Poised Woman

Nkaiso Asikpo Speaks On The Poised Woman

We had a talk time on my Whatsapp platform sometime last month and I thought it wise to share with you... Enjoy.


I'll begin by giving a simple meaning of what the word "Poised"means. Poised simply means showing a very calm and controlled behaviour. For example, you can say:
"She remained poised throughout the entire process".

So, being a poised woman simply means being able to pull yourself together despite what life throws at you!

-A poised woman is not easily moved by what's happening around her. Nah, she's got her shit together!

-Being poised is not about being "too serious". Nah, it's about knowing how to pull your strings without getting pulled down in the process!

-There's something magical about being a woman and its only poised women who know how to handle their magic wand!

-They know how to cast their spell and make things happen!

-A poised woman knows when to talk and when to listen!

-She also understands what it means to trust her intuition and guts!

-A poised woman has mastered the art of pulling the trigger. She knows when to call her shots!

-A poised woman is not a common kind of woman, her life is beautiful to watch!

-As a human, she may make silly mistakes  but what makes her a poised woman is how she handles the outcome of her bad decisions!

-She isn't the woman who pretends to know it all. Nah, she is open to learn from others.

-A poised woman is a total package of awesomeness!

-She isn't flawless but her flaws is not the first thing you will notice when you meet her!

-A poised woman understands what it means to be flexible and she isn't afraid to stamp her authority when need arises too!

-Elegance and intentionality are words that describe her best.

-She's got swag and doesn't do anything anyhow and with anybody!

-She knows what it means to stand alone and she understands the power of collaboration too.

Now, let me speak a little about who a poised woman is not! Amitabh Bachchan's words summaries it best:

"Because you are women, people will force their thinking on you, their boundaries on you. They will tell you how to dress, how to behave, who you can meet and where you can go. Don't live in the shadows of people's judgement. Make your own choices in the light of your own wisdom."

-A poised woman is not the woman who is always scared of what others will say or do. Nah, she understands that her life is hers and she is not scared of taking decisions that will put her on the right track.

I'll conclude by giving some insights through the acronym method:

P -Practical
O -Organized
I - Intentional
S - Skillful
E -Enlightened
D -Determined


A poised woman takes practical steps towards making her life better. She isn't the kind of woman who laments all day long without taking action. She knows how to talk and how to do!


I said earlier that a practical woman has her shit together! She knows her to put things and people in order. She's got A1 in setting her priorities right.

In her life, there is time for everything.  She knows when to work and when it's time to chill, she chills! She has mastered herself, knowing what works for her and what doesn't.


You know Travis Greene's  INTENTIONAL song right? That's her anthem!

She knows that she must consistently place herself in a position that will cause other things to line up to her own advantage. Being strategic in all she does is always at the back of her mind.


A poised woman knows that she is not Eve in the Bible that had Adam waiting for her arrival😂.

 So, she learns how to do something with her hands or brain. Daily, she keeps looking out for ways to be more productive and financially buoyant.


She keeps on enriching her mind through learning from books, podcasts, blogs, watching her environment and every possible means.

She isn't slow or non challant about learning, so she intentionally creates time to learn.


It was Arnold Schwarzenegger who said:

"In our society, the women who break down barriers are those who ignore limits".

A poised woman is determined and does not give room for excuses. She takes the bull by the horn and smashes her goals so damn hard!

So ladies, are you POISED?

P -Practical
O -Organized
I - Intentional
S - Skillful
E -Enlightened
D -Determined

If your answer is yes, KEEP AT IT and if it is no, GO FOR IT.

Meet Our Article Provider...

Nkaiso Asikpo is a writer and speaker who focuses on discussing about issues revolving around personal development, making a difference in the world and living intentionally.

Thursday, March 28, 2019

Dear Ex, We Never Met.

Dear Ex, We Never Met.

Young Lovers
Some people will date  you,leave you, forget you and when you make it in life,they want to familiarise and tell the world they dated you... I know you can relate.

Okay,sweet gist,one bobo I dated a long time ago,sent me a message weeks to my wedding and was telling me how he wished I was saying YES to him and not to my Husbae,I smiled but deep down I was glad he was not the one. I mean where did he go and why? You leave for no reason and come back with reasons and wishful thinking...

The next thing he said was I'm happy we are still friends, I'll tell the world I dated you at least... You can imagine... So you will get a trophy for dating me or what? Smh...
"I think I still love my Ex"... "I miss my Ex so much..." "I wish I can just be in my Ex's arm again..."
Tell me,is that too much to ask???

Well, I hear these stuff every now and then when people reach out to me for advice but I smile and tell them to do what's best for them,because las las no be me go advice you something wey you already no wan take.

First of,why did the person become an Ex is one major reason they should or should not remain an Ex. So you need to visit the scenario carefully.
Bimpe(Name withheld by me) was in an abusive relationship and decided to walk out of the relationship so she can have her peace,but then again,she never stopped thinking about her Ex. Several times she thought of going back to him.

One day,she reached out to me and we talked at length,after the conversation, she decided to stay with the present person... I mean why miss someone who abuses you and your worth as a human being. My dear,you need your peace o,I mean %100 of it.
I used to think Women have more relationship ish,till I met Dan(Name withheld by me). He loved this girl so much and apparently they've been dating for a while but He thinks she's not giving her full commitment to the relationship...

My guy broke up with her and the next thing he was talking about getting back with her and my guy has one new babe that is everything he always prayed to have in a woman o,I sha knew his village people were on his matter... LOL... Anyways, it's his decision.
Here's why I'm making this post today, You don't need to stay in an abusive relationship, you don't need to go back to an Ex who does not need you back in their life. If the reason for them leaving you was not cogent enough,don't accept a come back sermon from them. It's time to say dear Ex,We Never Met!

One truth is this, every man knows the woman he wants to spend the rest of his life with,women only become puzzles for them. They tell you they are looking for a  wife material so the idea is to taste them all and hurt them if need be. Women are also wicked o,I mean if they want to be.
But when we become Ex,we stay that way biko. Personally, when I'm done,I'm done. So if your Ex reaches out to you and you've moved on, don't be shy to say,Dear Ex,We Never Met. Not because you never dated,but because you've deleted the memory of being with him/her. Shikena.

I'll stop here for now, see you soon.
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